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Helping Your Family Maneuver Through a Homosexual Culture – Part One

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This post has been on my heart for a long time. I’ve put off writing it because I know it has the potential to arouse some deep-seated emotions and heated feelings. Due to recent events, I’ve decided it’s time. This is the first in a two-part series addressing the issue of homosexuality.

Maneuvering through the homosexual debate in your family can be tough – especially if you’re a Christian family who has chosen to live life in light of God’s principles.

I’m going to share a couple of stories with you today. In a second post, I’ll give you some ideas to use as you help your kids maneuver through a homosexual culture.

Story #1

My hairdresser was at Wal-Mart late one night with his partner. There was only one checker – and lots of people in line. As they waited their turn, a woman behind them got really loud about her discontent at having to wait so long. Extremely foul language flew out of her mouth. It became so offensive, my stylist’s partner turned around and politely asked her to stop. She continued to rant.

Later, when they were loading their groceries into their car, this woman came out and verbally attacked my stylist and his partner. She referred to the Bible and spat at them about their homosexuality. She even punched one of them. The police came and arrested her. It’s amazing to me that she actually quoted the Bible. In reality, her behavior was completely unChristian. There was nothing about her that resembled Jesus Christ.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27

“With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be.” James 3:9-10

When we curse men and women, it is as though we are cursing God Himself.

Story #2

Flash forward. I’m at a wedding reception for a family member. We’re peacefully sitting around a table with relatives. One of them, who knows I’m a Christian, starts in on me about Christianity. She brings up homosexuality. Over and over, she keeps saying how Jesus was about love and how we Christians have it all wrong. She was really angry. I tried to converse with her, but she wouldn’t hear anything I had to say. She was on a mission. This really bothered me. Actually, it ticked me off.

You see, I had just spent seven years of my life developing and leading a sending ministry at our church. In that position, God had planted His desires in my heart. He compelled me to mobilize our church in acts of roll-your-sleeves-up, hands-on compassion. He wanted us to practice living out the great commandment (love). He showed me that when that love is sincere (without condition or ulterior motives), it naturally opens the door for the great commission.

In that ministry, we gave to the orphans and poor, supported the sick, advocated for the oppressed, embraced those who were different, and loved those our society treated as outcasts. In the end, God transformed our entire church as He impacted the world through it. My relative didn’t know my heart. This person treated me (and my husband) with contempt and disgust.

Since that time, I have personally talked to two separate individuals who have received death threats from people in the LGBT community because they left the homosexual lifestyle to enter into heterosexual relationships.

Two different situations. Two examples of hatred on each side. And now the Chick-fil-A debacle – and all because their owner simply shared his love of traditional family values.

Let’s be clear about something. When someone says they believe in traditional family values, it does NOT mean they hate homosexuals. Not sure where that line of thinking comes from. Truth is, you can love family values while still loving those who differ in opinion and practice.

The hatred, discrimination, and persecution I’ve witnessed this week is completely distressing. In a society where there is so much brokenness and corruption – in large part due to the breakdown of the family – it seems we should be thankful for those who uphold traditional family values – especially when they do so without hatred.

Bottom line – hatred is never okay – no matter which side you’re on. This is something we need to impress upon our kids and talk about in our families.

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God.”  1 John 4:7

What do you think?

Because families are worth fighting for . . .



  1. EM says:

    To be truthful, I was expecting a humorous “protect your children from the gays” type post from the title. Instead, I was pleasantly surprised to find that you have a very sane view on the matter.

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