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Forgiveness and Reclaiming Your Heart

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Hello friend. I’m concerned about you. I see all that junk you’ve been dragging around behind you.  You’ve been broadsided by injustice. You’re nursing wounds and holding onto grudges.

I know you’re exhausted, and I’m here to tell you that you deserve better. You weren’t meant to drag that stuff around.

Will you let me share a story with you?

Our daughter recently came face-to-face with an injustice that really wounded her. She has a passion for precious special needs children, and embraces them with a deep, genuine love. As a first-year teacher, she was just getting settled in her own place for the very first time in her life. Her bedroom is her haven and a reflection of her personality. She decorated it carefully making it cozy and comfortable.  

Barely out of the gates, a young man broke into her home through her bedroom window. Shattering glass – and her peaceful haven. Overturning furniture – and her world. Cutting himself, his blood spattered around her room seeping into her personal belongings. Leaving the stain of his presence, he stole personal items he had no right to take.

Feeling violated and unsafe, she became friends with Tylenol PM at bedtime. And her heart prayed gratitude no one was home during the invasion.

Fragments of glass clung  to every surface . . . ever-present remnants pricking and poking at the most unexpected times.  Glass dust glittering as constant  reminders of the injustice and violation. 

I crossed the miles to love and serve my daughter as she faced life head-on and struggled to persevere not only through the after-effects of the robbery, but through huge challenges at her school.

It was a privilege to be by her side for . . . one . . . precious . . . week.

Vacuuming and re-vacuuming with the shop vac, we worked diligently to eradicate those damaging fragments of glass. We restored order and spruced things up with a new rug, lamps, and other items.  


We reclaimed it from the man who broke in to steal and destroy making it even “homier” than it was before.

Evil’s grasp was loosened.

No human being is immune to injustice, pain, and betrayal. They’ve pock-marked my life, and I know they’ve done the same in yours. 

When we nurse the pain and refuse to forgive, those experiences cling to us like the irritating remnants of glass in my daughter’s room.

Bitterness and resentment fester and seep into every part of our personal lives constantly reminding us of the injustice done to us. They prick and poke us causing anger to explode at unexpected times staining those around us as we “bleed” all over the place.

Bitterness and resentment steal what they have no right to take – our peace, our joy, and fullness of life.


I watched bitterness and resentment steal my mother’s peace, joy, and life. She nursed them both until the day she died. Even while she was living, they sucked the life right out of her – and in many ways, they sucked the life out of her children too. I learned a lot from watching her, and am resolved to  live differently – to live life to the fullest. 


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Experiencing fullness of life requires letting go and finding forgiveness when you’re wounded. It isn’t easy, but it can be done with God’s supernatural help.

Maybe it’s time for you to hook up the shop vac and get to work eradicating those damaging fragments in your life. I mean, let’s clean that stuff out! Get rid of it! 

No matter what you think, God absolutely adores you. He wants a much better life for you than one wrapped in bitterness.

Here are some things he suggests you do. 

  • Do not allow bitterness to take root. Bitterness is like poison that infects you and everyone around you.  Hebrews 12:14-15 urges us to refuse to allow a bitter root to rise up in us and to  live at peace with everyone. 

  • Allow the peace of Christ to rule in your heart. As we’re renewed through our relationship with Christ, Paul teaches us to allow the “peace of Christ” to rule in our hearts.”Rule” means to prevail, govern, and abound. The peace of Christ is meant to prevail and abound in us.
  • Live at peace with each other. As members of one family, we’re called to live in peace with each other just as Christ brought peace between us and God. His peace in you leads to peace with others. Colossians 3:15 
  • Forgive. The peace of Christ can abound in you when you refuse to harbor bitterness and “make allowance for other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13
  • Remember what you’ve received. In Matthew 6:9-15, Jesus teaches that our ability to forgive is based on the realization that we’ve been forgiven much. If we’re truly repentant and live in an intimate relationship with God, we’ll forgive others. We’ll do it because he gives us the ability to do it – and because we’re so grateful for the undeserved forgiveness we’ve received from him.

Living at peace with yourself, others, God, and your past leads to fullness of life not just for you, but for your family as well. 

While you’re getting rid of the junk, why not spruce things up a bit? Load up the spaces of your heart with some positive, healthy stuff like truth (i.e., scripture). As Deuteronomy 32:47 teaches, “They are not just idle words for you – they are your life.”

Throughout the week, my daughter and I talked about the young man who broke into her home. We imagined what it might feel like to live the life he was living.

  • Empty.
  • Not contributing anything positive to the world.
  • Giving in to evil.
  • Without respect.
  • Unable to feel good about himself and the life he’s living.
  • Possibly addicted to drugs . . . the control of the addiction causing him to break into a home with an alarm system in broad daylight . . . an addiction compelling him to put himself at risk of incarceration by stealing. 

Compassion arose in us – and evil’s ultimate grasp was broken. 

I want to leave you with a challenge today. Here it is:


Take it back from the one who came to steal, kill, and destroy. (John 10:10“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith . . .” (1 Peter 5:8-9) 

Reclaim your heart NOW. No excuses. Don’t allow one more second to go by in that dark, dirty dungeon of bitterness.

It’s time for you to get back to living, loving, and breathing the air of freedom.

What do you need to do to begin the process of reclaiming your heart today?





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