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8 Ways to Protect Kids and Help Those Addicted to Porn

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We have a friend who has always been a really good guy. Nice. Friendly. But he had a dark secret. He was consumed by an addiction to hardcore p*rn. His addiction caused him to act out in real life on one occasion and it landed him in jail for 10 years. 

Do you know someone caught in the destructive addiction of p*rnography?

Chances are . . . you do.

Internet Use

  • At this moment: 2,200,000,000 people are online. (That’s 1 of every 3 people in world today.)
  • The internet has now replaced TV as the media of choice for kids.

P*rnography on the Internet

  • P*rnographic websites online today: 5,000,000,000
  • P*rn webpages: 500 million 
  • #1 topic searched on the internet: s*x
  • 43% of people online visit p*rn sites each day
  • 25% of all downloads are p*rnographic (1.5 billion per month)

How Porn Damages Lives

  • #1 stimulus for – and cause of – the s*x trafficking industry: p*rn
  • #1 cause of rape: p*rn
  • #1 cause of divorce: p*rn (56% of divorces are caused by obsessive interest in p*rn.)
  • P*rn use increases marital infidelity by more than 300%.
  • 33% of those addicted to p*rn lose their jobs.
  • 40% lose their spouses.
  • P*rn desensitizes the viewer to cruelty and lowers viewer’s perception of women.

Our Children and P*rn

  • 90% of 8-16 year olds have viewed p*rn.
  • 80% of 15-17 year olds have been exposed to hardcore p*rnography (bestiality, group s*x, same-s*x intercourse, child p*rn, s*xual bondage). 
  • Largest consumer of internet p*rnography: 12-17 year olds.
  • 47% of children receive p*rnographic spam everyday.
  • For 91% of youth, first time exposure was not sought out. It was accessed during activities such as research for a school project or surfing the web. P*rn sites intentionally create website names that are one character off of sites children visit.
  • A lot of young girls say they are viewing p*rn to know how to satisfy a guy. 
  • Average age of exposure to internet p*rn is 9 years old.

“Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions.”

- U.S. Department of Justice

Handheld devices

  • 50% of all access to the internet is now on handheld devices. What was once only accessible in back-alley stores and theaters, is now instantly available in every home, school, and business.
  • 1 in 5 mobile searches are for p*rnography. (Click this link to see the escalating number of searches for *ornography since the beginning of 2014 in real time.)

Christians and P*rn

Josh McDowell spoke at a Bible school where I was a student. He stated p*rnography is sidetracking more people in ministry than anything else. It’s the greatest threat to the body of Christ, the church, the family, and the ministries of pastors and youth pastors.

He went on to say, “There is nothing in 2,000 years of the church that will be more difficult to battle than internet p*rn. It’s so addicting and destructive.”

  • 47% of Christian families report p*rn is a major problem.
  • 53% of pastors visited a p*rn website the week before giving a sermon.
  • 50% of all Christian men and 20% of Christian women say they are addicted to p*rn.

P*rnography is the hardest addiction to break because of the visual images causing dopamine to be released into the brain.

What can we do to stem the tide?

 

1) Be intentional as a parent.

  • Apathetic parenting is not a good – or acceptable – response to a culture that works overtime to devour our kids.
  • A loving relationship with mom and dad – especially the father – does more to override peer pressure, p*rn, drugs, alcohol, pre-marital s*x, etc. than just about anything else in the world. 
  • Engage – do things on purpose to protect your kids and prevent their exposure to p*rn. 

2) Get back to sexual morality.

  • Start by modeling sexual morality in your own life then talk about it with your kids.
  • Instill moral strength in your kids by nurturing their relationship with Jesus Christ (the one who gives us the desire and ability to overcome temptation and the power of sin) and by letting them see you mold your own life around your relationship with Jesus.
  • Teach them God’s heart on sexual morality found in the Bible.

3) Tell people NOT to go it alone in recovery.

  • God has given us the body of Christ for a reason. Jesus ministers to us through people in the body of Christ.
  • For recovery and healing, p*rn addicts need recovery groups, mentors, accountability partners, and counseling in safe environments. 

4) No question is off-base.

  • To deal with issues of p*rn addiction, pre-marital sex, infidelity, and human trafficking, we’ve got to get real and open up dialogue in our churches and homes.
  • Christians MUST stop tiptoeing around the word “sex” for fear of offending anyone. We must refuse to allow it to remain taboo in church/home dialect any longer.

5) Make sure your kids hear about sexuality from you first.

  • You, as the parent, should be setting the standard and shaping their views of s*x. Your kids need to hear the truth about sexuality from you rather than in derogatory ways from the culture. According to experts, you should begin talking to your kids about sexuality around the ages of three or four. 
  • Use correct terminology to encourage respect for our physiology according to God’s perfect design.
  • Keep the door of intentional communication open through the years. 
  • Talk to your kids about the dangers of p*rn and what to do if they see it.

6) Install Internet filters.

  • Install filters on your home computers and on handheld devices.
  • Keep home computers in the open. No one should be using one in private. 
  • Covenant Eyes offers internet filtering for Windows, Mac OS, iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch. Parents can adjust sensitivity through the age-based filter sensitivity feature, and custom block/allow lists.

7) Sign up for internet accountability

Covenant Eyes offers internet accountability through reports of your (or your child’s) internet activity. Reports are sent to a designated friend or family member . . . a critical way to reduce the temptation to click on inappropriate links.

8) Pray

Spiritual warfare is definitely being waged in the area of p*rnography. Jesus battled Satan’s temptations successfully with the offensive weapon of scripture.

Here’s a PDF with some scriptural prayers you can pray:

Scripture Prayers for Protection & Freedom From P*rn Addiction

prayers regarding addiction

Related links:

just1clickaway.org

Pure Hope

“Hold Me Jesus”: A Prayer for P*rn Addiction

Do you know someone who struggles with p*rn? Has this post helped you? 

Thanks for stopping by! I sincerely appreciate your presence here at The Warming House.

Lisa

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