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Loving and Accepting Stepchildren

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Are you in a blended family? From my experience, this family structure can present lots of challenges. Accepting and loving stepchildren is one of them.

I know it’s hard for those of you who parent in a blended-family structure. I know you deal daily with very complicated issues. But your families are worth fighting for. They deserve your best. Children – even those who are not your biological children – desperately need your love and acceptance.

If you struggle with loving your stepchildren well, allow me to share what God impressed on me today. If you’re a parent in a blended family, this is for you. I recognize there are no simple answers to complex challenges. This is just a perspective from the heart of God.

We were all outcasts . . . undeserving . . . despicable in our sin and rebellion . . . unlike God . . . not a part of his family. We were on the outside. But God in his great mercy accepted us because of what Christ did on the cross. He adopted us into his family. He made us his own.

In his family, he never treats us like we’re different . . . or not good enough . . . or not truly his own. He accepts us unconditionally and treats us as his own – like we’re truly his biological children. He never loves one of his children more than another. Amazingly, he loves us as much as he loves his only son, Jesus Christ. (John 17:23)

Think about that for a minute. Christ is perfect. We are not. Yet he loves us as much as he loves Jesus Christ. He sees the best in us. How is that possible?

It’s possible because God is perfect and he loves perfectly. He wants us to love our families like he loves his.

As I said, you’re in a challenging situation. But be encouraged. God is on your side! (Romans 8:31-37) You can love like he does by:

  • Being aware of his presence
  • Yielding your heart and mind to him.
  • Abiding in his love.
  • Trusting in his resources.
  • Relying on his strength.
  • Obeying his teachings.

When you do, He will give you a new heart – his heart. (Ezekiel 11:19-20). He will give you a new spirit – his spirit. (John 4:13) His thoughts will be your thoughts, his feelings will be your feelings, his attitudes will be your attitudes. You will see your children through his eyes. Your family relationships will be healthier.

“I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me, and delivered Himself up for me. (Galatians 2:20)

What are your thoughts? What works for you? What tips do you have that would help other blended families?

Because all families are worth fighting for . . . 

Lisa~

2 Comments

  1. Inspiring. I am sure this will be a real help to people who may struggle with something that might even be hard for them admit.

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