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Helping Your Family Maneuver Through a “Homosexualized” Culture – Part Two

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Last week I published the first post in this two-part series. It was my intention to put up this second post sooner but my husband and I received an unexpected opportunity to meet with a respected community leader this week regarding an idea for a new not-for-profit. We’ve been preparing for that – and enjoying our kids who are going back to college soon.

Here are some ideas for you as you help your family maneuver through our culture:

  1. Teach your children to love people – even those who are different. God is love. His love is made complete in us when we love others. (1 John 4:8, 12,16; Galatians 5:13-15) An overwhelming majority of homosexuals have turned to same-sex partners because of childhood abuse or rejection. Compassion is the appropriate Christian response. Help your children practice compassion.
  2. Teach them not to judge other people. Teach them by modeling it. Remember – you’ve got enough of your own sin. God has forgiven you and shown you mercy. Never forget that. Teach your kids it is wrong to judge or bully anyone – including children of same-sex parents. (Romans 3:10, 23; Romans 6:23; Romans 5:8; Romans 8:1)
  3. Teach your children to concern themselves with how they’re living their own lives. Encourage them to personally live by God’s principles not the world’s. So many Christians are concerned with changing other people. Do you know what God’s concerned with? Working in the hearts of His followers, and changing you so that you become more like His Son each day. (Romans 8:28-29)
  4. Make sure your kids understand that believing what God says in the Bible and living by His principles does not make them a bad person! That’s what the world wants them to believe. Remind them that these are God’s values. They aren’t something you came up with. He put them in place for our protection and benefit because He loves us. (Deuteronomy 6:4-9; Matthew 28:20)
  5. Talk to them about the true definition of tolerance which is to respect someone else’s views while agreeing to disagree with them. Today that definition has been twisted to mean acceptance and approval of all views as truth.
  6. Talk to your children about God’s heart in the Bible. Teach them the truth. Here are some of the things God says about homosexuality:

God instructed married couples to reproduce and populate the earth. This indicates that he designed us for heterosexual relationships. The human race would have died off long ago if His intention had been to create homosexuals.

“God blessed them; and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth . . .” Genesis 1:28

“. . . and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

“And God blessed Noah and his sons and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth.” Genesis 9:1

God intended the marriage relationship to be between a woman and a man.

“So the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:23-24

Jesus referred to marriage as a heterosexual covenant.

“And He answered and said, ‘Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” (Matthew 19:4,5. See also Matthew 19:8-9)

God clearly states, “You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 18:22

God clearly indicates that homosexuality is not the “natural function” of mankind. In other words, He did not design us to be homosexuals. “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.” Romans 1:26-27

God is good so we know that He did not create people as homosexuals. Why? It would have been cruel for Him to create them this way when he clearly commands us not practice that lifestyle. Homosexuality is not an inbred trait. It’s a behavior . . . a chosen lifestyle.

God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because their sin was “exceedingly grave.” Homosexuality was rampant there. Genesis 18:20-21; Genesis 19:5, 24, 25 (See also Jude 1:6-7)

But the Bible also teaches about the wrath of God against all other “sins.”

“They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed, and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.” Romans 1:29-32

This pretty much covers all of us!

There is hope for all us sinners in Jesus Christ:

God is merciful. He knows we’re completely helpless to live His way perfectly. He sent his son to rescue and help us.

“Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

        7.  Finally, teach your children to live in such a way that the world knows what they stand for (love, compassion, mercy, truth, integrity, family values, life, etc.) – not what they stand against.

Because families are worth fighting for . . .

Lisa~

2 Comments

  1. June McDonald says:

    Beautiful, Lisa, and so lovingly put. Loving someone is not always about agreeing. It is difficult when someone believes that if you disagree with a stand they take it means 1> you don’t love them and 2> you are wrong. Tolerance is lovingly disagreeing and letting the other person know that although you disagree, your love for them remains strong and unconditional. I can not make a decision for anyone else but I can always pray that everyone I care about daily has a closer walk with Jesus. I hope my friends pray that any sinful part of my life is changed and that I repent. I know I need to focus on that part where I remove the plank from my eye. The world is becoming an angrier place everyday not more loving.

  2. Thank you June! Appreciate your perspective on tolerance. You’re right – this world certainly needs more love. Can we just duplicate you and spread you around the world? You’re very good at loving others. :)

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